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Making Decisions from a Centered Place

Writer's picture: Chetana Karla ShaktiChetana Karla Shakti

Life is full of choices, and making decisions from a centered place is essential for personal growth and well-being. Whether it's relationships, career moves, or everyday choices, approaching decisions with clarity and integrity ensures that they align with our values and goals.

1. Clarify Your Intentions

Before making a decision, ask yourself:

  • What do I truly want?

  • Will this choice align with my long-term goals?

Taking a moment to reflect can prevent impulsive decisions driven by emotions or external pressures. Focusing on your goals rather than others' actions can help you stay true to yourself.

2. Tune Into Your Feelings Without Judgment

Self-awareness is key. Acknowledge your emotions without letting them control your choices. Instead of reacting impulsively, ask yourself:

  • Why am I feeling this way?

  • Is this feeling guiding me towards a healthy decision?

By understanding your emotional responses, you can make decisions that reflect your true desires rather than temporary emotions.

3. Maintain Open and Honest Communication

In relationships, whether personal or professional, clarity comes from honest conversations. Inspired by relationship coach Jillian Turecki, here are some questions to foster understanding and alignment:

  • What does a strong, healthy relationship (or partnership) look like to you?

  • How can we improve our communication?

  • What are your needs and desires in this situation?

By asking meaningful questions, you create space for connection and shared understanding.

4. Assess the Situation Objectively

Rather than jumping to conclusions, gather all relevant information and look at the situation with a neutral mindset. If someone doesn’t follow through on their commitments, consider:

  • Clarifying the situation: Reach out directly for confirmation instead of relying solely on others.

  • Setting boundaries: If their actions seem unreliable, adjust your expectations accordingly.

  • Staying neutral: Acknowledge miscommunications without assigning blame.

5. Stay Grounded in Your Values

When making decisions, it’s easy to get caught up in external influences. Remind yourself of what truly matters:

  • Does this decision align with my core values?

  • Am I acting with integrity?

Staying grounded in your values ensures that your choices reflect who you are rather than external expectations.

6. Support Yourself Emotionally

Decision-making can sometimes feel overwhelming. Practicing self-care can help you stay centered:

  • Deep breathing exercises to calm anxious thoughts.

  • Journaling to process emotions and clarify thoughts.

  • Seeking support from friends or mentors who offer perspective without bias.

7. Decide for Yourself, Not Others

Ultimately, every decision should be made based on what feels right for you. Whether it’s attending an event, pursuing a relationship, or taking on new responsibilities, consider:

  • Do I enjoy this? Will it bring me fulfillment?

  • Am I doing this for myself or to please others?

If the answer resonates with your personal growth and happiness, move forward with confidence.

8. Embrace the Process and Be Kind to Yourself

Not every decision will be perfect, and that’s okay. Trust the process, learn from your experiences, and practice self-compassion along the way.


Making decisions from a centered place requires self-awareness, clarity, and emotional resilience. By tuning into your feelings, communicating openly, and staying true to your values, you can make choices that align with your authentic self. Whether you move forward or take a step back, always remember to be kind to yourself throughout the journey 💙

 
 
 

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